I know a person who says emotions are the crux of all human issues. They are what make this world a sad place - ‘no emotions no pain’ she says.
Then there is this other person I know, who says that the seed of all life’s troubles are expectations. You don’t expect you don’t get hurt.
I hear them both but I am not sure if I agree with either.
Yes expectations and emotions may bring us pain, despair, heartache, tears and hopelessness but isn’t this all what makes us human, makes us alive, makes us appreciate the small things life and celebrate the absence of the above mentioned?
I tried not to expect because it really hurts when things don’t go as you want them to. I tried not to get emotionally involved with things – I tried but I am not sure if I fully succeeded.
The reason – cause I am human, I may be able to block certain unwanted memories, events and people – but bottling them up doesn’t help in the longer run. You are bound to break down and when you do, it gets even more difficult to gather yourself up. Instead if you let yourself get hurt, let your tears flow, talk to people about your emotions, dont be afraid to show that you are weak - you will end up feeling mush more stronger.
By talking about your issues I don’t mean to whine all the time and talk trouble and pity yourself. That all is way more dangerous than bottling it up!
I guess what I am trying to say is that look at those million positives that life throws at you – whenever encountered with an issue or a problem take a step back, analyze it a bit, see if the thing bothering you is something in your hands to maneuver and then act accordingly. There will be things you’d be able to change change them! But trust me there will be more things you will not be able to change, the best thing to do in that scenario is to alter your own behavior. Cause trust me when I say, it is the easiest thing to do and it will gives you peace – It may seem unreal but the best thing to do in a situation where you have absolutely no control over anything that’s happening you can control is your own self - Your own actions, your own level of expectations, your perception about yourself and others, your capabilities and above all your emotions.
So what if things didn’t turn out the way you wanted - are you focusing too much on what could have been and miss seeing what is?
As long as the breath comes and goes, feel this life, know that each passing moment is each moment less of this world - this beautiful beautiful world! which no doubt is depressing as hell most of the times but turns into heaven with a smallest of moments that touches your heart. A good piece of music you can relate to, or a spontaneous crazy idea which crosses your mind suddenly n u break into a wide smile or a joke you remember or the look you see in your child’s eyes when he sees you or the beautiful weather, the sun shining brightly or that blissful sudden gush of light breeze on a hot summer day. I tell you there is so much to be positive about in this life - ONLY if let your self stop for a moment and watch.
Trust me on this! :)
Then there is this other person I know, who says that the seed of all life’s troubles are expectations. You don’t expect you don’t get hurt.
I hear them both but I am not sure if I agree with either.
Yes expectations and emotions may bring us pain, despair, heartache, tears and hopelessness but isn’t this all what makes us human, makes us alive, makes us appreciate the small things life and celebrate the absence of the above mentioned?
I tried not to expect because it really hurts when things don’t go as you want them to. I tried not to get emotionally involved with things – I tried but I am not sure if I fully succeeded.
The reason – cause I am human, I may be able to block certain unwanted memories, events and people – but bottling them up doesn’t help in the longer run. You are bound to break down and when you do, it gets even more difficult to gather yourself up. Instead if you let yourself get hurt, let your tears flow, talk to people about your emotions, dont be afraid to show that you are weak - you will end up feeling mush more stronger.
By talking about your issues I don’t mean to whine all the time and talk trouble and pity yourself. That all is way more dangerous than bottling it up!
I guess what I am trying to say is that look at those million positives that life throws at you – whenever encountered with an issue or a problem take a step back, analyze it a bit, see if the thing bothering you is something in your hands to maneuver and then act accordingly. There will be things you’d be able to change change them! But trust me there will be more things you will not be able to change, the best thing to do in that scenario is to alter your own behavior. Cause trust me when I say, it is the easiest thing to do and it will gives you peace – It may seem unreal but the best thing to do in a situation where you have absolutely no control over anything that’s happening you can control is your own self - Your own actions, your own level of expectations, your perception about yourself and others, your capabilities and above all your emotions.
So what if things didn’t turn out the way you wanted - are you focusing too much on what could have been and miss seeing what is?
As long as the breath comes and goes, feel this life, know that each passing moment is each moment less of this world - this beautiful beautiful world! which no doubt is depressing as hell most of the times but turns into heaven with a smallest of moments that touches your heart. A good piece of music you can relate to, or a spontaneous crazy idea which crosses your mind suddenly n u break into a wide smile or a joke you remember or the look you see in your child’s eyes when he sees you or the beautiful weather, the sun shining brightly or that blissful sudden gush of light breeze on a hot summer day. I tell you there is so much to be positive about in this life - ONLY if let your self stop for a moment and watch.
Trust me on this! :)
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