Every human needs to have a quiet centre within his mind. You dont need to worry about confusion if you have inner quiet. and if you can achieve this, you can talk to god and trust your every instinct - as you will know exactly what he is saying to you.
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I am a first time mom! :D Excited, overwhelmed, un-nerved, jittery, scared, exhausted, under slept, over stimulated and above all Paranoid! I like to think I am in control - but well I am not! The constant war between what I want to achieve, at the pace I want to achieve it and the strength my weak body has….leaves me breathless..! I for one like to be in control, the one thing motherhood, cannot promise; in fact, absolutely negates.
Simple things which I never really paid heed to have become absolute luxuries, like watching TV, talking on the phone undisturbed, sleeping or taking a bath let alone going to the washroom; things that we usually take for granted, have now become regular items on my to do list. Words like long and shower are no longer part of one sentence - except for of course in one way “It’s been so LONG I took a SHOWER!”!! The first year is absolutely a roller coaster, where you as a first time mom are struggling to hold on to the ride that life has suddenly transformed into. When I was expecting, I thought pregnancy was the toughest part, but now I know that was the easiest! As long as the child is inside you, enjoy it! My baby is one year old now, and I thought THAT was the toughest bit, but as I see her enter the toddler years I realize once again that, I was wrong, as long as your child barely moves and cries ONLY for food and burps enjoy it! … and I guess if you ask other moms with older kids they will confirm that there is absolutely no EASY time with a child. Every day is a battle, every day is a juggling routine, every day there are tears and everyday there are giggles; but what is most important to remember and cherish is, that no matter how tired and helpless you feel at times, no matter how many times in a day you feel like you will break, that you cant take it anymore, before you know it these years will be over and you will yearn to have these times yet once again! So my advice to all the new moms out there is to enjoy this time as much as you can, cause it will be over before you know it. It’s only a matter of a few years when they become independent and get engrossed in their own lives and you start feeling like a by stander watching in disbelief that this independent little person was once a tiny little helpless baby you could cuddle and hold whenever you wanted and however you wanted. So try and put other less important things away for a couple of years because honestly you WILL get around to doing them someday, but if you let go of these precious moments, you might never get them again! "And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don't believe in magic will never find it."
"Everything in this room is edible. Even I'm edible. But, that would be called canibalism. It is looked down upon in most societies." Willy Wonka "We are the music makers, and we are the dreamers of dreams." Willy Wonka Credit: http://mariamkt.blogspot.com/2011/02/i-dedicate-this-morning-to-roald-dahl.html My Lord God, I have no idea where I am going,
I do not see the road ahead of me. I cannot know for certain where it will end. Nor do I really know myself, and the fact that I think I am following your will does not mean that I am actually doing so. But I believe that the desire to please you does in fact please you. And I hope I have that desire in all that I am doing. I hope that I will never do anything apart from that desire. And I know that if I do this you will lead me by the right road, though I may know nothing about it. I will not fear, for you are ever with me, and you will never leave me to face my perils alone. Came across a silly silly dream i use to have 3 years back - funny how our dreams change overtime but its always great to dream!
Always dream big, i strongly believe some bit of it always comes true!! :D Friday, August 22, 2008 "My dream job is the one where I’ll be the boss (naturally!), have my own room –a beautiful room, designed to perfection :D , will have a car (chauffer driven of course, who wants to drive in this traffic!) …. Will have a personal secretary… a team of loyal employees (who love me and worship me…*dreamy sigh*) my boss (owner of the huge company, totally adores me …thinks of me as the best employee ever) huge salary and 9 to 5 dot ….and yea the work will be something I really like doing (that I still need to figure out!!)….my work place will have a well equipped gym and a day care center …… I will travel (first class) around the world looking all professional and super hot! Having sophisticated meetings at the most exquisite places of the world :D " Life is made of moments - happy moments, not so happy moments, slow moments and relatively fast ones. All of our life can be divided into these four types, loosing even one of them leaves us incomplete and craving for more. We all have dreams, wants, capabilities and our own sets of limitations. Very often we succumb to our limitations and loose our real selves and forget what we, as women are capable of achieving, which in my opinion is a grave sin. Because being a woman and not being “all that” is just simply wrong – we are made to juggle multiple glass balls singlehandedly, and if we don’t we are wasting ourselves.
I feel that most of us women have forgotten this fact about ourselves – we’ve gotten so used to not knowing what we are made of that it has made us delusional and under confident, resulting in making us forget not only our strengths but also our responsibilities. The stresses of this country have left us so exhausted that we’ve forgotten to actually live, we are ‘not’ dead, but aren’t alive either. Women of Pakistan today are losing themselves to subliminal prejudice and emotional harassment, not only by members of opposite gender but from that of the same too; and it’s not even only the people, it’s the media and very much the whole society – who have made living “simple”, being independent or a being a young mother deciding to devote to children and family at the cost of her career, such a looked down upon phenomenon that women now are trying to prove themselves by slaving to un attainable fashion and lifestyle idols and by subjugating their values to that of the stronger ones around them. Remind yourself to feel good about who you are, be proud of whatever you are doing, if you are single working woman keep your head up and don’t let non-working or married women intimidate you and vice versa. Educated young mothers feel obliged to stretching themselves to balance a full time job and responsibilities of motherhood, primarily because soon after becoming mothers they lose all credibility to have an opinion on important matters and since they devote so much time and patience to the little people in their lives, they feel that they have lost themselves. Having a job makes them feel important, gives them the break they need for themselves and above all makes them feel worthwhile again and of course there is money too. I, at times feel that motherhood is such a difficult and demanding job that half of us just want to run away from its stresses and calm our nerves down, primarily when the required family support is missing. In midst of achieving that balance we find ourselves in a whirlwind of work responsibilities and those at home – and at times can’t do justice to either. It’s difficult - seriously it is! Believe it or not motherhood is, has always been and will always be the most difficult job ever; unpredictable work hours, extreme responsibility and complete accountability are a few dimensions of this role. I am not against working mothers; all I am trying to say is that even though it’s healthy to have a career and one’s own life’s agenda apart from the children duties, it is extremely important that mothers give ample quality time and consideration to their children lives too. Set down your boundaries, lay down your rules and know that only you have the power to do it all, that what you have been trusted with is the most important of jobs and as in others quarters of life you must give your hundred percent. We can talk about our superiority in terms of changing the world or help strengthening the economy or even obtaining majority seats in the government but our actual superiority is, has been and will always be the fact that we can literally “MAKE” people, that we are literally capable of developing generations. We are not only designed to give birth but also to develop sound and strong personalities, the impacts of which trickle down generations through generations. We probably cannot change our society and the limitations imposed on us by virtue of being the residents of a third world country, but we can definitely change ourselves and our reactions to these factors for the better. So, let’s feel good about ourselves, let’s celebrate being women, let no one make us forget how special we are, how important our work as women is, as mothers is and invest in our children. Let’s make them the change agents for tomorrow, make them good human beings who will change our society for future generations to come, do not poison their hearts by rubbing in the negativities of life and try to make them healthy positive people who have faith in themselves, in life, in their capabilities, and most importantly in their religion. Educate your children, make your sons gentlemen and daughters benevolent home makers; don’t give in to the flashy shiny arrogance that is destroying us as a nation, as Muslims. Don’t give them superiority complexes, don’t spoil them, make them capable of standing up for themselves but also teach them when to compromise, don’t make them forget who they really are, teach them to empathize, to be proud of what their core strengths and weaknesses are and teach them how to manage themselves and others around them, cause this is the only way you’d be doing justice to yourself and all of humanity. One must Never
1. stop drinking adequate water, like seriously it can mess u up 2. stop being urself to please somebody else, trust me no one i repeat NO 1 is worth it 3. stay up all night watching tv, it actually leaves u more tired then u realize (this ones age dependent) 4. stop screaming at people, they surely deserve it 5. over analyze, it actually hurts your brain 6. Self pity, your self doesn’t deserve it 7. try being perfect, you can never get even close, you are after all human 8. stop crying, your face n eyes need moisturizing 9. make up scenarios in your head, its freaky they often come true 10. try too hard at things, generally they screw up any ways leaving you breathless from trying 11. bottle up feelings, why should only you suffer 12. care too much for others, what are they doing themselves anyway? 13. compromise, seriously who are you fooling? 14. Stop singing, believe it or not you rock! 15. stop eating, that’s what life is about anyway. Sometimes the only escape from a pesistent thought is when you say it out loud, free it from the confines of your head and let it out to soar into the vastness of life. Bliss!!
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